I think that is a very interesting comment Mr blue. And i agree with it wholeheartedly,
I saw an interesting article about treating Alcholics in Canada, basically they bring them off the street and put them in hostel, each hour they are given a glass of wine, and in the morning, they get a double portion. If they drink any more than that or take drugs they are evicted. These individuals when they were on the street would commit many many petty crimes , robbery shoplifting etc etc. The people under this regime all stopped petty crime, they had access to washing facilities and were ' clean ' for the first time in years. The main anti alcohol organisations deplore this approach as their view is if you are an alcoholic, the only treatment is complete and total abstinence.
Now the reason for this post is, that this echoes my experience with gambling, I am 60 and when i was young the term was compulsive gambler. And i was / am one of these , nowadays you are a gambling addict.
Now in my past I have gambled huge sums of money compared to my income, so a months wages on one bet when i was young was not unusual, i frequented casinos regularly, etc etc, as got older i owned racehorses, i was invited to cheltenham by Betfair
, and went to big functions with Ladbrokes
In the past I have attended Gamblers anon, the trouble is that their approach is total abstinence, I can't function properly if i haven't got a bet going on...it is part of me. So betting recklessly puts me in a bad place, but not betting also puts me in a bad place.
So about 5 years ago, I closed very single internet account that i had or could have, i even opened some just to close them. ( i bet loads of bets on internet sites , just because i could), In my world internet gambling is just the worst thing ever, closely followed by the machines in the bookies, I never use them and feel sorry for the people using them. These gambling channels given the opportunity to bet when you are bored, feeling low, losing loads or indeed winning loads, in my day it was the bookies then down to the dogs followed by the casino. It is really easy today to just get carried away.
Now i allow myself a 'betting allowance' , I only bet cash and i post my bets here.
I am posting this not to be pleased with myself, but to say to anyone else whom has this type of an issue, its not all or nothing , you can have a bet but it must be managed by yourself, be ruthlessly honest with yourself, if your daily allowance is 5 pounds, them it must be 5 pounds even if you win 25 , or if you lose 8 days in row.
Currently I have had about 10 bets this moth and almost all have lost , the urge to double up/ down is massive...but i will resist.
And part of this post is to remind myself to resist.
Mr Blue you are right, but life is quite complex for people like me..and we keep trying to keep the genie in the bottle.
I like this site because it gives my a chance to interact with people who have a shared interest and admire those for whom it is not a problem. I told my wife about it, and the first question she asked was can you bet through it? (A good thing i got from GA is that i am completely honest with my wife about my gambling), I said no, but of course the real answer is that if you are so minded, like me, it does encourage you to gamble. But i do resist.
To any moderators who read this, perhaps you might consider some literature or links to sites , for individual who may have the same type of problem as me.( edit i have noticed the link to gamble aware on the front page aplologies)
If anyone reads this and it strikes a cord i will be happy to have an offline conversation if you think it would help.
Lots of love to anyone struggling , the same way I do..
And if i drop out of the site for a while you know i will stuffing the genie back in the bottle!!!